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Bonus Episode: Thanksgiving Strategies

Bonus Episode: Thanksgiving Strategies
November 25, 2025
The holidays can be challenging for any family. Let alone a family navigating the murky waters of addiction or alcoholism. On the precipice of such a challenging event, the Thanksgiving dinner that is looming in our distance. Let’s briefly remind ourselves of our;
Role
Boundaries
Your Tool Kit
With that, let’s dive into this week’s mini-episode.
Reminder of Our Role
With the prospect of the great Thanksgiving Dinner looming in the distance, as partners of good people suffering from addiction or alcoholism. Our minds have already begun a neurotic examination of possible scenarios that will undoubtedly lead to triggering emotions in our partners. (Deep breath)
This is a gentle reminder, THIS IS NOT YOUR ROLE HERE.
It is NOT your job to carefully examine the landscape and look for the hidden landmines.
It is NOT your job to try to navigate emotional triggers to shield your partner from encountering any distress.
It is NOT your job to be the buffer between your partner and his family.
It is NOT your job to maniacally follow your partner around to ensure they never have the opportunity to engage in secret spirits.
Take a deep breath and LET GO of that role.
That is a HUGE burden you have been carrying. And again, WE KNOW that we fall into that role as a logical reaction to our partners’ behaviors when they are in active addiction. Born of the best of intentions, under the worst of circumstances.
So IF THAT is not our role. What is our role? Let’s discuss.
Enacting Healthy and Appropriate Boundaries
A reminder here, we define a boundary as a sphere of safety around your persons. That encompasses;
Physical Boundaries
Emotional Boundaries
Psychological Boundaries
Communicative Boundaries
Ask yourself this simple, yet very difficult question.
“What boundaries do YOU need to feel safe this Thanksgiving?”
(Deep breath) That’s a big question. Now, recognize that your family, or your partner’s family’s expectations for the holiday, have no business influencing the answer to that question.
Any justification or excuse you may feel compelled to use to avoid setting an appropriate and healthy boundary needs to be evaluated, disarmed, and reconciled.
So I ask again, “What boundaries do YOU need to feel safe this Thanksgiving?”
Do you need to,
Go late to the dinner, and leave early?
Skip the big family event, opt for a casual morning visit with the family – a more intimate controlled, sober option for engaging with the family?
Skip the family events all together? Cook a meal at home with the kids?
These are only options to get your creative juices flowing, so you can craft a plan that;
Meets your family’s needs
Ensures your boundaries are upheld and you feel safe
Honors your own ties to your extended family
Honors the tradition and sentiment of the holiday
The BIG Boundary COMES FIRST
The above are boundaries around the dinner event itself.
But let’s talk about the BIG boundary that needs to be in place. Are you ready?
“You will accept nothing, other than sobriety this holiday.” Say it out loud, over and over again, until you find peace, logic, and serenity in that statement.
You will accept NOTHING short of a fully sober partner. That is THE MAIN BOUNDARY that needs to be upheld and enforced before ANY OTHER BOUNDARY can be ventured or gained.
What do I mean by this? Simple.
If you enact a variety of boundaries to prop up your day, to protect your peace. And your partner is living in active addiction, and quite predictably becomes intoxicated. What exactly is it that you have protected or gained through your efforts?
You must FIRST ensure your MAIN BOUNDARY, your BIG SCARY BOUNDARY, is in place before you structure your day.
Know this truth, this is a FACT of being married to a good person suffering from addiction or alcoholism – regardless of the day of the week – regardless of the looming holiday.
This coming holiday simply serves as an opportunity to practice your newly learned skills.
To step out of the natural codependent role. And into a role that is PRODUCTIVE, PROPELS YOU (and your kids – if you have them) FORWARD, towards a better tomorrow.
Your Tool Kit – Healthy Skills
With that, let’s discuss your skills, the tool kit YOU need to be equipped with this week. In brief;
Mindful of Typical Codependent Pitfalls
Detaching Mantra
Your Guide to Navigating Manipulations and Lies
Lens of Critical Thinking
Your Definition of LOVE
Let’s discuss in greater detail.
Mindful of Typical (and Atypical) Codependent Pitfalls
Let’s remind ourselves of the definition of Co-Dependent Partners;
“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect them and who is OBSESSED with controlling that person’s behavior.” Defined by Melody Beattie in her book Codependent No More. 
For me, my codependent tendencies are so deeply entrenched with enmeshment, I have to remind myself to DETACH. To not only detach myself from my partner, who is in his sober infancy of sorts. But also to DETACH MYSELF FROM THE OUTCOMES. To allow him to bear the consequences of his actions, his choices.
When I evaluate my logical, somewhat natural response to my husband’s mood, behaviors, choices, etc. If I can identify how I am seeking to CONTROL his behaviors and the outcome of a scenario. Then I can more easily recognize when I am on the precipice of a codependent relapse.
If and possibly WHEN your inner seas become stormy, or turbulent, you sense your partner is somehow unstable. And you feel those codependent thoughts, emotions, reactions begin to engage, that’s your cue – to turn your focus from your partner, to yourself. To focus on DETACHING.
Detaching Mantra
Your mantra, when you recognize your tides rising – your inner seas picking up speed and turbulence. Your mantra needs to be this:
To STOP YOUR OWN REACTIVITY to your partner’s behaviors. TO STOP YOUR OWN REACTIVITY.
If your partner chooses to become intoxicated – THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO – EXCEPT TO ENACT YOUR BOUNDARY. Thats the truth. You cannot control them, you cannot make choices for them. You cannot ENABLE THEM any further. Set the boundary, stop your codependent, enabling behaviors, and DETACH.
Repeat the mantra over and over in your mind, throughout the day. This is your armor, this is where you return to when the tides begin to rise.
Your Guide to Navigating Manipulations and Lies
Now is the time to remind yourself of common manipulation tactics that can be employed on you in your partner’s efforts to protect their disease.
*These tactics are reviewed in greater detail in our articles entitled “Identifying Manipulative Behaviors in Addiction” & “The Complex Relationship between Manipulation, Love Bombing, and Codependency.”
Manipulative Tactics: 
Gaslighting  – manipulating someone into questioning their perception of reality. 
Guilt Trip – Emotional manipulators are masters at leveraging your guilt to their advantage. 
Excessive Charm or Flattery – Manipulators use exaggerated praise to gain trust. 
Silent Treatment – Deliberately not responding to your reasonable calls, texts, emails, or other inquiries, the manipulator presumes power. 
Passive Aggression – The manipulator may make sarcastic jokes or comments that can later be dismissed as “I was just joking” or “You take everything too seriously”. 
Victimhood – Exaggerated or imagined personal issues. Exaggerated or imagined health issues. Dependency. Co-dependency. Deliberate frailty to elicit sympathy and favor. Playing weak, powerless, or the martyr. 
Isolation – There is safety in numbers, which is why manipulators work to isolate you from the people and places you feel most comfortable.  
Shifting Blame – a tactic where a person refuses to take responsibility for their own mistakes or actions and instead assigns fault to someone else. It is important to note that shifting blame is also a form of verbal abuse.
more on It is important to note:
It may seem obvious, that the GOAL of the manipulator is to gain control over another person’s feelings, or to cause emotional chaos through coercive control. 
(REF: Better Help)
Lens of Critical Thinking
Armed with a solid, clinical definition of common manipulative tactics, when you’re in the moment with your partner, you need to apply a lens of critical thinking.
If they attempt to employ some manipulation, some lie, in order to either become intoxicated or protect their intoxication. You need to apply your lens of critical thinking.
FIND the TRUTH within their lie or manipulation and address the TRUTH paired with the BOUNDARY.
For example;
“Yes, family CAN be triggering. I know that I will never FULLY understand the pain your family has inflicted. However, we agreed that our home will be sober. If you are not sober, or cannot be sober, you cannot return home with us (or stay the night with us, or continue to live with us).”
Apply your lens of critical thinking to locate the truth within the manipulation or lie, THAT is how you disarm it.
You give voice to the truth, you stand firm in the truth and you REFUSE to enable them to hurt their body through intoxication.
Definition of the word LOVE
This is your gentle reminder – of the true definition of love. Or how we, in this community define the word LOVE – as something other than a deeply felt emotion.
Love is patient. 
Love is kind.
It does not envy.
It does not boast. 
It is not proud. 
It is not rude. 
It is not self seeking. 
It is not easily angered. 
It keeps no record of wrongs. 
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. 
Reminder of the TRUTH
Remind yourself over and over again of the truth until it feels natural and logical.
Enabling is a selfish act, born of selfish fears. THAT IS NOT A DEMONSTRATION OF LOVE for your partner. Enabling behaviors allow them to harm their mind, body and soul.
Codependency and codependent behaviors, while UNDERSTANDABLE, and certainly a natural reaction to the ecosystem of living with someone in active addiction. IS NOT A DEMONSTRATION OF LOVE for your partner. Codependent behaviors lead to enabling your addicted partner to continue to harm their own mind, body, and soul. THAT’S THE TRUTH.
You need to thoughtfully make the choice to arrest those behaviors and thought patterns, and seek the truth.
Love is creating a thoughtful, healthy boundary and enforcing it. Love is not allowing your partner to believe their own lies. Love is acting out of integrity and ethics in all our dealings. Love is showing empathy, but shrouding yourself with appropriate safeguards.
In Conclusion
The holidays can be hard, yes.
Do people get through them without spiraling towards self destruction, YES.
Can you find the courage, the strength to protect your sphere of safety around persons this Thanksgiving? YES, I believe you can.
Listen to this podcast episode over and over again until it makes sense. Until you can see the logic. And distinguish the truth through the manipulations.
Do you understand the importance of a boundary?
And can you understand demonstrations or acts of real love?
You can do this; you are never alone. Help is always available.
XOXO, Anonymously Becks
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The Topic of Trust

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The Topic of Trust
November 24, 2025
Keeping to our topic of TRUST, today we will review the two prongs of trust. The trust you lost in your relationship with a good person suffering from addiction or alcoholism. (Seems obvious, right?) And more importantly, the trust you lost within yourself.
Application of Clinical Definitions
In order to fully understand the topic of trust, let’s review two definitions to apply as our baseline.
The definition of TRUE (the root word of TRUTH). Oxford Languages defines TRUE as:
“In accordance with fact or reality.”
Our second definition, the definition of the word TRUST. Oxford Languages defines TRUST as:
“Firm belief in the reliability, TRUTH, ability or strength of someone or something.”
Reviewing the definition of the word TRUST, where it hinges so poetically on the definition of the word TRUE, you can see the importance of deeply understanding the intended meaning of BOTH words. TRUE or TRUTH and TRUST. A symbiotic relationship. Where there is one, the other is undoubtedly present.
Learning to Trust YOURSELF Again
Was there a time where your own mind, your own heart held that symbiotic relationship between what you KNEW to be TRUE or fact, and the conclusions you naturally drew?
Of course, there was a time when the TRUTH REINFORCED the TRUST you had in yourself.
In order to rebuild what has been lost, lets first review HOW it was lost.
The Impact of Lies and Manipulations
In my experience, in a relationship with a good person who is suffering from addiction and alcoholism. It was never his intention to cause me distress or harm when he made the choice to engage in his disease. To viciously protect his disease at my expense. [That said, it was never his intention NOT to hurt me, but more on that topic in a future article].
Every lie, every manipulation, ever so slowly, over an extended period of time, broke my ability to trust myself. When I finally learned the truth. That he had been engaging in secret spirits, drinking in secret, taking more of his prescription of pharmaceuticals than directed by his psychiatrist. It took me SO LONG to process my reality. That I had been lied to repeatedly, even when I had directly asked him about his sobriety.
That was so difficult for me to understand. It took me a long time to fully feel the impact and comprehend the TRUTH. The reality of my husband’s progression in his disease. I felt like I was walking through the thickest of fogs on a dark evening. I could catch a glimpse of one piece of the picture. Perhaps the outline of the figure, but not more.
The only way I could find the TRUTH again, the fact or reality, was by dissecting my experience with the truth. What do I mean by that?
By reviewing each time, I found secret spirits. Or each time I suspected he was employing some manipulation tactic in an attempt to protect his disease. Let’s Review:
What type of spirit did I find? Was it alcohol? Was is a pharmaceutical?
When I confronted him about it, what was his response?
Did he blatantly LIE? For example;
“I didn’t buy that. The shop gave that to me for free to try to get me to buy more.”
“That’s OLD, that’s from “before [a previous, minor relapse]”.”
Did he try to gaslight me? Did he make ME feel like I was in the WRONG?
“Why are YOU invading my privacy and searching my things?”
“You KNOW I don’t drink that brand/type of alcohol, that’s not mine.”
*Please note, this list is NEVER to be used as a weapon against your partner. That would be in direct opposition of our CODE OF ETHICS and conduct. This is simply a tool for YOU to find your footing, we will call upon this list in the coming section.
This exercise, reviewing each recalled encounter, methodically, gave way to the fog that had overtaken my vision. I was able to slowly gain sight of the TRUE picture of our life. A picture of severe distress in my partner, who had begun his spiral into his disease. A picture of a codependent wife, who had unwittingly ENABLED my partner’s disease.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. As someone who loves a GOOD PERSON suffering from an incurable, PROGRESSIVE disease, my initial response, actions, and choices were born of the BEST of INTENTIONS. That said, THIS community of peers knows better that there is a BETTER path, a BETTER choice to be made.
Rebuilding Self Trust
Let’s now, talk about rebuilding the TRUST you had in yourself. Let’s go back to your list of encounters when you suspected your partner was employing a manipulation tactic to protect their disease.
As you review each encounter (it could be 1 encounter, it could be many), take a moment to:
Close your eyes – recall the moment in time as if you were in that moment precisely.
What are your observations? As the unwitting wives, one of our methods of survival that we have adopted (either consciously or otherwise) is a keen, detailed observation of our partners.
Are you reviewing his eyes?
His pupils? Are they “pinned”?
Are his eye lids relaxed, perhaps a little droopy?
Do his eyes look sharp or glazed over?
His overall appearance?
Does he look alert? Healthy?
Does he look disheveled?
Does he appear to be in a RUSH to get out of this conversation?
What about his emotional state?
Is he calm? Relaxed? Open to the conversation?
Does he become agitated? Frustrated?
Does he immediately launch into the lie or manipulation?
Now that you’ve reviewed the encounter in your mind. WHAT ARE YOUR CONCLUSIONS??
Do you believe that he was *LIKELY* lying, manipulating? Protecting his disease?
Or do you feel it really could go either way? Like he *COULD* have been sober at that time?
The truth is, YOU WILL NEVER TRULY KNOW.
Instead, you need to keenly listen to your instincts and find the courage to follow that conclusion.
What if You’re Wrong?
If by chance, your instincts prove to be wrong, and you accuse your partner of being intoxicated at a time when he was in fact sober. Take a moment to ask yourself, how it is you got here? Remind yourself of the TRUTH. The truth is, he broke your trust at some point, he lied, he employed any variety of manipulative techniques, which CAUSED YOU HARM.
So if he cannot take responsibility FOR THAT, for steering the relationship to this port, then you have a larger topic to address. So give yourself grace. There are times you might be wrong – there are times when you will be right. Learning to build trust within yourself again will take time, effort and dare I say, continual management.
Reinforcement – A Strategy to Build the Skill
Let’s talk about the greatest tool in ANY tool kit. Reinforcement. When learning to trust yourself again, you need to provide YOURSELF reinforcement. I briefly mentioned this technique in our previous article: T.R.U.S.T.
Every time you make ANY decision, you remind yourself, “This was a good decision FOR ME, TODAY in this MOMENT.”
It really doesn’t matter what decision you are reinforcing – it could be as simple as deciding to wash your hair, or to skip it for another day. Or what socks to wear. The simplest of decisions, that impact only you. You remind yourself, THIS WAS A GOOD DECISION FOR ME.
By doing this, you are rebuilding what’s been lost, your trust in yourself to make sound decisions that are productive and positive FOR YOU.
Through this process of positive self-reinforcement, not only are you rebuilding your inner trust, but also your confidence and your sense of self.
And here in lies the true benefit. To gain yourself back, to get back what was lost, what was taken by lies and manipulations, is priceless. This gift, the gift of your;
Sense of Self
Self Confidence
Self Trust
It is not freely returned. You have to systematically find your way back to yourself. One simple or complex decision at a time. In time, like anything else we discuss here, once you put in the work, it will become second nature. That said, baby steps, give yourself the grace to learn a new way, a better way. Make the choice for yourself today.
XOXO, Anonymously Becks
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Mini Episode: Briefly, the topic of TRUST

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Codependent Partners and the Learning Curve

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The Topic of "Proof" and Defining "Who's Actually in Control"

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Understanding Enmeshment vs. Codependency in Relationships with an Addict or Alcoholic

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Newcomer's

Newcomer’s: Are you the Unwitting Wife of an Addict or Alcoholic?
Are you new here? WELCOME! Do you love, or are you deeply connected to, someone suffering from an addiction? Are you the wife of an addict? Addiction is a family disease; every person it touches is affected. My goal, as Anonymously Becks, is to guide you on a journey towards healing. Together, we will strengthen and repair your own mental health and wellness. Welcome to your awakening. 
We are so glad you’re here. 
This community is dedicated to the mental health and wellness of the wives of addicts and alcoholics. 
I have packaged some important content that may bring clarity and peace to your journey now, in this moment. For our Newcomer, wives of addicts and alcoholics, I suggest you start here:
 
Foundations
Foundations Content: Our Foundational Content provides the basic rules of engagement when in community with others. 
Foundations Content Episode  
A Higher Power
How to Define Addiction in Practice 
Hallmarks of Addiction or Alcoholism Episode
Identifying Manipulative Behaviors in Addiction Article 
Identifying Manipulative Behaviors in Addiction Episode 
Sample Members-Only Content: Who’s in “Control” here? Article 
Sample Members Only Content: Who's in Control here? Episode 
Are you living the life of a Gambler? Article 
Life of a Gambler Episode 
Boundaries 
Boundaries – Identifying boundaries that would best serve you (and your children)
Boundaries Episode 
Navigating Boundaries: Love vs. Addiction
Boundaried - Holding the Line Episode 
Detaching
How to Lovingly Detach from an Addict
How to Lovingly Detach - Episode 
What to expect when you “lovingly detach”
What to expect when you lovingly detach episode 
The Topic of Treatment
Understanding the Myths of Addiction and Recovery Article  / Episode 
What YOU Need to do While Your Partner is in a Treatment Center Article / Episode 
Family Roles
Sample Members-Only Content: Why Hello Pinocchio 
Identifying the “Roles of the Family Members” Article / Episode 
Toxic Family Systems / Episode 
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Enmeshment in the Addicted Family System

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The Gift of the Curse of Addiction

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Understanding Predictable Behaviors in Addicted Households

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